I find writing cathartic. People have many different creative outlets, but writing is my passion – as is reading excellent literature. There is nothing like converting what’s in your heart and soul into something tangible, reading a good story, or learning about something new. There’s even something to be said for formal studies.

I’ll always be the strange cat who is the eternal student, the ‘mad professor’, the grammar ninja. I may drive my family and friends bonkers, but this is just who I am.

I am lucky enough to have found myself, and a safe place to “belong”. There are many who are still drifting, waiting for the current to take them to some place they can call their own. Abraham (refer to the Abraham-Hicks teachings/ ‘channelings’), said something to the effect that we should let go of the oars, go with the current – why fight to go ‘upstream’. Life is not meant to be so difficult. There are others who continue to fight to go places they are not really meant to be – and this is why I am writing this post.

Some things are just not meant to be. We can kick, scream, throw childish tantrums, but we are fooling ourselves. If something is not meant for you, it won’t materialise. Try as hard as you might, you’ll keep banging your head against the proverbial brick wall. Einstein said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result. So why the insanity? Why the resistance to what is meant to be?

Are we as humans geared towards fighting against our destinies? Perhaps we are. There are many stories of “heroes” fighting to change what is/ was meant to be – but there is definitely a trend. If something is woven into the Loom of Fate, can it really be changed? Sometimes. More often, it can’t.

I’d recommend letting go and going with the flow – it’s far less stressful on your psyche, emotions and physical body. Being a bit of a hypocrite, I can’t say that I’ve mastered the art of ‘letting go’. Practice does make perfect, though. By all means, visualise what you are aiming for, have goals and aspirations, do what you are good at. But, don’t let something that is hurting you (psychologically, physically, emotionally) keep you pinned down. It isn’t worth it. If it is hurting you, it’s not meant to be.

If I can reach just one person that this message resonates with, I’ll be happy – please keep yourselves safe from all harm. As I’ve said before: You don’t need it, and you certainly don’t deserve it.

Before I end this post, I’d like to mention that I know it’s not always possible to keep yourself safe all the time – but there are ways to protect yourself. Learn them, use them, share them with others. One of my favourite sayings is something along the lines of “a good defence is sometimes a good offence” – it’s used often in martial arts. Don’t let an attacker get away with murder (and by this I also mean literally – not just figuratively). Arm yourself – be prepared. Create a safe place for yourself. Learn to defend yourself. Be ready to protect those who need protection and can’t help themselves – but only those who deserve it (there is a quote that has always resonated with me, by a famous Japanese martial artist named Masaaki Hatsumi – “Don’t protect people who don’t deserve it. Your job is to protect the good. Observe one’s true character.”).

Perhaps it’s time to let go of what’s holding onto you, and follow what destiny has in store for you. It might be the most wonderful thing you could ever imagine. Yes, the road may be bumpy, but in the end, there is something great waiting for you. I know it – and I think you know it too.